Tip #1:

Keep a note on your phone with a list of your things (“traits”) you think might have something to do with neurodiversity. 

Notes:

1. Why? Because you’ll forget the list otherwise when someone asks why you think you might be neurodiverse. You’re parking this big stuff on your phone and can have a break from it. And it can help to see it in black and white rather than a flock of judgy bees wheeling around in your head (bees. flocks.).
2. Your possible neurodiversity (best not to go listing other people’s traits without some very significant thought and checking your motivations).
3. Remain open minded. As you learn more, just be kind and curious to yourself.
4. If you’re burrowing into possible ADHD, Autism and AuDHD, then there is a good chance you actually do have some traits, at least. People without ADHD, Autism and AuDHD don’t spend such significant time trying to figure out if they maybe have these conditions. Just a thought. Not science.
5. There are free neurodiversity tests online, some of which are the actual clinical tests. If you start second- and third-guessing these tests then… hmm.
6. Dual diagnosis has only been a thing since 2013. Likelihood is you know more about it than most people already.
7. It can take months, or more, to get to an assessment, so just make this note as you go. You won’t remember them all otherwise. And when you read them back to yourself, then you’ll feel less like a potential imposter.
8. Take a break. Take your time. Go walk.